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Living Together

25 September 2017 By In Relationship Advice
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I know that you will tell me that you know your partner really well and, of course, you may do. However, you may not know them quite as well as you think you do, once you start living together.

As soon as you are considered ‘an item’, your partner may exhibit personal habits that you were not expecting – and which might be even more irritating that leaving the loo seat up or the top off the toothpaste!

The Art of Compromise

Compromise is part of life and an important part of all relationships. Most couples over time become acutely sensitive to each other’s likes and dislikes and learn to make adjustments.
It is very important to be very clear as to what you want and why you want it. It doesn’t mean that by doing so that you will get it, but it does mean that you will both be completely clear as to what is in your mind and there will hopefully be no silly misunderstandings between you that can cause resentment.

Now is certainly the time to have some of those important discussions about your future life together and in particular how you are going to manage important issues such as joint accounts etc.

No matter what is your status, discuss and agree the terms of your relationship so that there are no nasty surprises further down the line!

So get talking!

Carole’s Tips:

• Talk money [joint or separate accounts, careers [who is going to be the career partner, bucket lists [dreams and aspirations] and most of all explore if there are any deal-breakers such as one of you wishing to move abroad and away from family and friends.
• When difficult situations start to occur, don’t just roll your eyes up to heaven but instead sit down and discuss the problem between you
• Diffuse situations as you go along – not keep them simmering inside you and this will hold you in good stead for your future lives together.
• Never leave important issues unresolved as these will tend to come to the surface at the time of an argument and that is not a good thing!

There will always be challenging times in the early years of living together as this is all part of the 'getting to know you' process when two people – particularly of contrary genders - choose to live under the same roof!

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Carole Spiers

I am a Relate-trained Integrative counsellor & member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP). Working as a Relationship Advice expert, I appreciate that you maybe going through a rough patch with your partner, spouse or even your children. Let me help you find the key to improving your relationship that will increase your joy & understanding of each other.

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